Relationships and Martial Concerns

Relationships can be challenging.

However, change doesn’t have to be. A significant reason many couples end up in couples therapy is to decide on the direction of their marriage or long-term relationship. Overall, the question becomes: “Do we stay together or call it quits?”

If this resonates with you and your partner, understand that this question has potentially life-altering consequences depending on your chosen pathway.

Couples therapy is an excellent way to help you confidently make this decision! Couples with whom I have worked report feeling calm and accomplished once the therapy is complete because they know that either way, they’ve done everything possible to handle this decision with care.

Couples may be contemplating separation or divorce.

In my experience, couples on the brink of separation or divorce fall into two camps.

High-conflict couples have been fighting for a long time, sometimes years. Most, if not all, of their interactions are negative and highly charged with emotions ranging from mild annoyance to rage.

If they have children, it’s not uncommon for their kids to witness the fights and sometimes even become roped into their fights or triangulated over time.

Disconnected couples are couples who no longer fight or have much meaningful interaction, even if they have children who still live at home. Most days, they can manage their obligations: work, parenting, “fur baby” parenting, attending events, and general “adulting.” They even show up for family events and holidays together.

But they’re strangers to each other’s inner worlds and lonely within the relationship. I’ve seen couples stuck in this pattern for months, years, or even decades.

If you are in one of these camps, therapy can help.

Whichever of these camps you find yourself in right now, seeking professional help is essential if your relationship is on the brink of failure.

I’m well-versed and experienced in helping couples navigate the darkest moments of their union and emerge with essential insight, skills, and decisions on how to move forward.

Here is how I approach couples therapy.

The two of you will have a safe space without judgment or invalidation to discuss how you got here to this critical point in your relationship. We will discuss relationships and individual factors that have contributed to the breakdown of your union (e.g., trauma history, attachment styles, etc.).

Part of the process will involve identifying specific behaviors that can decrease high conflict in the short term and promote more positive interactions in the long term.

We will focus on healing past attachment injuries that have broken your bond over time or eroded trust while focusing on strengthening the emotional connection between you and your partner and creating a more secure attachment.

You will develop an agreement on boundaries around sharing your relationship problems with family and friends and establish decisions and strategies for addressing the impact of your relationship problems on your children (if you have children).

Change is possible, but it is up to you!

Ultimately, you and your partner will decide whether to move forward together or separate amicably if that’s agreed upon as the healthiest option.

The important thing here is that you tried, and allowing the process to work can make a difference. Therefore, I am committed to doing everything I can to help you resolve the issue and find a path to a fantastic relationship.

Let’s start the healing journey today!

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